DBT, or Dialectical Behavioral Therapy

DBT works towards balancing emotions
DBT works towards balancing emotions
DBT works towards balancing emotions

Let’s continue our look at different therapy approaches, starting with Dialectical Behavioral therapy.  Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is considered a newcomer to the field, despite it being around since the 1980’s.  Dr. Marsha Linehan developed DBT as an offshoot of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to treat those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.  BPD was considered extremely difficult to treat, and the success of DBT didn’t stop there. Dialectical Behavioral therapy is empirically proven to work with addictions, self harming, substance use, and is appropriate for anyone with emotional regulation issues.  It takes the established strengths of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and infuses Mindfulness techniques, helping patients make behavioral change while sitting through intense emotions.

The four areas of DBT

DBT starts from four main tenets: Emotional Regulation, Distress Tolerance, Interpersonal Effectiveness, and Mindfulness. Put together, this lays the foundation that preaches sitting with and through emotions, staying balanced between ration and emotion, and pragmatism in our interactions with others.  DBT is highly effective and is often taught didactically, through workbooks or modules.

Mindfulness

DBT starts and ends with mindfulness.  Mindfulness is the practice of increasing awareness.  Paying attention to ones thought, nonjudgmentally, helps control one’s thoughts and become more intentional and calm. Being mindful of thoughts can assist with all forms of emotional regulation, including anxiety,pain, anger, or depression.  Mindfulness is also useful for withstanding physical symptoms like panic attacks, dissociation, trauma responses, or chronic pain. Mindfulness takes from many eastern philosophies and  religions and challenges us to be more contemplative and intentional, whether it be practice regular meditation, recognizing and focuses the sensations occurring in our body, or slowing down to pause from our busy lifestyles for a moment of peace and clarity.  Mindfulness doesn’t require any belief in an omniscient being but does recognize the tenets of Eastern philosophies.

Emotional Regulation

Most therapy modalities work to control emotions, but they go about it different ways. Cognitive behavioral therapy challenges the thought that causes the emotion, intending to the change the emotion.  Dialectical behavioral therapy teaches to accept the emotion and to ride through it. Acknowledging the emotion allows separation between actions and feelings, providing the ability to be intentional and mindful of our choices. This segues very well into emotional regulation, stopping impulsive and emotionally driven reactions and instead encouraging pragmatic thought.  Dialectical Behavioral Therapy uses techniques like Wise Mind to help balance emotion, where the person is asked to step back and examine their thinking. Wisemind is the idea of dividing our brains into two halves, emotion and reason.  The ideal space is a perfect balance between, which is “Wisemind.”  It asks that we look at where we are in the current moment, a mindful check in to see if we are using our rational and reasonable half or our emotional half.  Then we look to adjust and find that harmony of balance and make decisions from the “wisemind.”

Distress tolerance

Distress tolerance is the idea of building our resilience to stressors, in order to improve our ability to withstand them.  Distress can be anything from anger, anxiety, chronic pain, or self harm ideation.  Dialectical Behavioral Therapy uses techniques like grounding to sit through the emotion and surf the feeling until it ebbs.  Instead of confronting and challenging the emotion, DBT teaches to outlast it and ride the wave until it leaves.  It also recognizes that distress level is dynamic, rising and lowering throughout the day and emphasizes the use of self care activities or meditation to not only return to a calm center but also bolster yourself against future stressors.  DBT treats distress tolerance like bandwidth, where we have our limits but can also plan ahead strategically to help with unavoidable stressful situations.

Interpersonal Effectiveness

We all live in relation to others and so do our problems and conflicts.   DBT looks at how we relate to and interact with others and tries to improve that.  Stemming from its beginnings working with those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, DBT tries to avoid tumultuous conflicts and problematic relationships that often accompany those diagnosed with BPD.  This tenet does extend to those who do not fit that diagnosis, as poor emotional control often comes at the cost of relationships.  Outbursts of anger are often directed at those we are closest to and cause rifts in our relationships, both personal and work.  DBT works with several techniques that teach staying objective in conflict, working to keep consistent with values, and to accept disagreement.  Again,  a key diagnostic criteria of Borderline Personality Disorder is unstable and intense relationships, where an extremely close relationship may end with high conflict and zero communication.  Dialectical Behavioral Therapy has been empirically shown to improve behavior and relationships. 

DBT is a very sought after and in vogue therapy modality now and with good reason.  It takes simple and self driven steps that are objective and modularized to reach empirically proven results.  It has changed Borderline Personality Disorder from a diagnosis previously thought to be extremely challenging to one that has clear and simple steps to an achievable success.  Better yet it has since been shown to be highly effective with all populations, and a myriad of disorders.  Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is straightforward and clear.  It uses mindfulness tools to better control our emotions and to improve our relationships and stress tolerance.  If you are interested in learning more about DBT, check out these links below including the creator of DBT herself.

https://behavioraltech.org/about-us/founded-by-marsha/

https://www.family-institute.org/therapy-programs/dialectical-behavior-therapy

https://www.dbtcenterchicago.com/

How To Deal With Anxiety

Anxiety

Anxiety can be one of the most crippling and paralyzing emotions we can experience.  It can devastate us, and restrict us from enjoying our lives.  Anxiety can drive a wedge in relationships and adversely affect our careers. It is extremely common with the Millennial generation, so much so that it is being called a silent epidemic.  Anxiety is becoming so widespread that there is not much stigma in admitting that you experience anxiety attacks or suffer from insomnia.  Anxiety can go overlooked and untreated, and like any other issue, it will only get worse.  Unaddressed anxiety can lead to stomach pain, headaches, back pain, and insomnia.  

Worse yet, anxiety can make us feel alone and hopeless.  Relief can seem impossible and out of reach.  Our own personal attempts to handle it often seem fruitless or unsuccessful.  So what to do?  Hundreds of studies have empirically proven that cognitive behavioral therapy can significantly reduce or eliminate symptoms of anxiety.  

Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy(CBT) starts with recognizing your anxious thoughts and readjusting your thoughts to cause a different emotion.  It starts with a very structured process that becomes ingrained until it is second nature.  Then therapy is terminated with no fear of backsliding to old habits.  CBT works by using relaxation techniques along with monitoring your thought processes.   There are many books available to learn more about this mode of therapy but it ultimately starts when you meet with a therapist.  Meeting in the office allows for an outside look at your thought processes and an opportunity to learn helpful techniques that are proven to reduce anxiety.  

Mindfulness is another popular modality for treating anxiety.  It has become very prevalent and has been featured in the news, apps, magazines and books.  The idea of quieting your mind and finding internal peace resonates with our fast paced society where we are constantly on, refreshing twitter for the latest news or checking for a work email.  Its no surprise that there is also a rise in sleep disorders when we have this cultural expectation to be completely alert and ready up until we try to fall asleep. Talk about trying to reverse course.

Intentionally slowing down and trying to gain awareness of our thoughts and feelings help puts us in the driver seat where we are then able to be intentional with our actions, and can choose to slow down and quiet our thoughts.  This approach favors balance and awareness, and while it seems passive it can yield great results.

The good news is that despite anxiety being so prevalent and widespread, qualified therapists are just as available.  The first step is to call and schedule an appointment.  Not only is that the quickest route to relief, it is also the only proven way.   We are ready when you are.

The Consequences Of Ignoring Our Emotions

Suppressing your emotions?

 

Have you ever noticed a headache or tense neck when you were having a bad day?

Just like stage fright can cause a stomach ache, any emotion can have a physical effect on you.  Emotions are very powerful, and we have a tendency to push away our feelings.  Our culture constantly tells us to put on a brave face and to act as if everything is fine.  A byproduct of that is that we are trained to swallow our feelings instead of dealing with them appropriately.  This leads to physical, or somatic, issues.

The physical effects of anxiety are easily observed.  First date jitters and test anxiety are some of the more minor issues, ones that are commonly seen and talked about.  But how about back pain?  Research has shown that back pain can be caused by prolonged stress and anxiety.  Migraine headaches?  Check.  High blood pressure? Absolutely.  How about gastrointestinal issues?  The surge in diagnosis of Celiac’s disease and IBS is in no way unrelated to an increase in anxiety and stress.  There are many cases of episodic IBS that are spurred by stress inducing events such as social gatherings.  Grinding teeth is a common manifestation of stress or anxiety, and it can lead to terrible headaches and expensive damage to our teeth.

In our quick fix society it is common to see people treating the symptom, whether it is pain pills or sleeping pills.  Instead, I challenge you to treat the source, which more times than not is unresolved anxiety.   The takeaway here is that the effects of anxiety isn’t limited to your feelings and thoughts.  It can have long lasting and expensive damage to your body.  People can continue to play whack a mole by treating the symptoms, or realize the cause of these ailments and seek brief therapy with long lasting effects.